1 Then David mustered the men who were with him and set over them commanders of thousands and commanders of hundreds. 2 And David sent out the army, one third under the command of Joab, one third under the command of Abishai the son of Zeruiah, Joab’s brother, and one third under the command of Ittai the Gittite. And the king said to the men, “I myself will also go out with you.” 3 But the men said, “You shall not go out. For if we flee, they will not care about us. If half of us die, they will not care about us. But you are worth ten thousand of us. Therefore it is better that you send us help from the city.” 4 The king said to them, “Whatever seems best to you I will do.” So the king stood at the side of the gate, while all the army marched out by hundreds and by thousands. 5 And the king ordered Joab and Abishai and Ittai, “Deal gently for my sake with the young man Absalom.” And all the people heard when the king gave orders to all the commanders about Absalom.
6 So the army went out into the field against Israel, and the battle was fought in the forest of Ephraim. 7 And the men of Israel were defeated there by the servants of David, and the loss there was great on that day, twenty thousand men. 8 The battle spread over the face of all the country, and the forest devoured more people that day than the sword.
9 And Absalom happened to meet the servants of David. Absalom was riding on his mule, and the mule went under the thick branches of a great oak, and his head caught fast in the oak, and he was suspended between heaven and earth, while the mule that was under him went on. 10 And a certain man saw it and told Joab, “Behold, I saw Absalom hanging in an oak.” 11 Joab said to the man who told him, “What, you saw him! Why then did you not strike him there to the ground? I would have been glad to give you ten pieces of silver and a belt.” 12 But the man said to Joab, “Even if I felt in my hand the weight of a thousand pieces of silver, I would not reach out my hand against the king’s son, for in our hearing the king commanded you and Abishai and Ittai, ‘For my sake protect the young man Absalom.’ 13 On the other hand, if I had dealt treacherously against his life (and there is nothing hidden from the king), then you yourself would have stood aloof.” 14 Joab said, “I will not waste time like this with you.” And he took three javelins in his hand and thrust them into the heart of Absalom while he was still alive in the oak. 15 And ten young men, Joab’s armor-bearers, surrounded Absalom and struck him and killed him.
16 Then Joab blew the trumpet, and the troops came back from pursuing Israel, for Joab restrained them. 17 And they took Absalom and threw him into a great pit in the forest and raised over him a very great heap of stones. And all Israel fled every one to his own home. 18 Now Absalom in his lifetime had taken and set up for himself the pillar that is in the King’s Valley, for he said, “I have no son to keep my name in remembrance.” He called the pillar after his own name, and it is called Absalom’s monument to this day. – 2 Samuel 18:1-18 ESV
Like a modern-day soap opera, there are so many plots and sub-plots going on in this passage that it is difficult to discern the main point of the story. First, there is the climactic battle between the forces of David and Absalom. Then there is the lopsided outcome to the confrontation with David’s troops easily routing their more numerous adversaries. As the battle raged and the momentum shifted in favor of David’s forces, Absalom attempted to escape the battlefield, only to find himself hanging from a tree with his long, luxurious hair caught in its branches. In a sense, the ego-driven mastermind of the entire coup attempt was ensnared by his own vanity and pride.
Now Absalom was praised as the most handsome man in all Israel. He was flawless from head to foot. He cut his hair only once a year, and then only because it was so heavy. When he weighed it out, it came to five pounds! – 2 Samuel 14:25-26 NLT
The handsome son of the king had paved his path to the throne by flaunting his good looks, power, and influence.
Absalom bought a chariot and horses, and he hired fifty bodyguards to run ahead of him. He got up early every morning and went out to the gate of the city. – 2 Samuel 15:1-2 NLT
This young man proved to be a crafty politician who used his father’s immense wealth to underwrite his carefully crafted PR campaign. Blessed with good looks, a sharp mind, and a long-pent-up disdain for his father, Absalom “stole the hearts of all the people of Israel” (2 Samuel 15:6 NLT).
But now, as he hung helplessly in a tree, Absalom would meet his fate. In a strange and rather serendipitous sequence of events, Joab, David’s chief military commander, happens upon the hapless Absalom. In direct violation of David’s orders, Joab violently executes Absalom, providing what would appear to be a well-justified punishment for his rebellion. If this was a scene from an action movie, the audience would cheer at the sight of the bad guy getting exactly what he deserved.
But this brings up another intriguing subplot and raises a host of questions. Why was David, yet again, unwilling to enact justice against a rebellious son? What possessed him to order his troops to protect the life of the man who had slandered his name and stolen his throne? When David gave the order, “For my sake, deal gently with young Absalom” (2 Samuel 18:5 NLT), he left his men confused and conflicted. His command reflects his long-held unwillingness to deal with problems decisively and effectively. This is the same man who had failed to punish Amnon for his rape of Tamar. He also refused to avenge Amnon’s murder by bringing Absalom to justice. David’s ongoing pattern of passivity and indecisiveness eventually caused Absalom to lose respect for him, resulting in the overthrow of his kingdom.
But in the end, Absalom got what he deserved. Joab did what needed to be done but, to do so, he had to violate the orders of his commander-in-chief. Joab seemed to have known that if he obeyed David’s command, Absalom would be spared and the threat to the kingdom would remain undeterred. So, he took matters into his own hands, which would result in a major rift between him and David.
Finally, this story contains an interesting side note that tells of Absalom having erected a monument to himself. That disclosure is unsurprising because there is ample evidence of Absalom’s pride throughout the narrative. But what is significant is Absalom’s stated reason for this act of seeming self-aggrandizement.
“I have no son to carry on my name.” – 2 Samuel 18:18 NLT
How could that be? According to 2 Samuel 14:27, Absalom had three sons and a daughter. What would possess him to declare that he had no son to carry on his name? Perhaps his sons had refused to follow in their father’s footsteps. There is the possibility that they had all died, or it could be that Absalom had erected the monument before his sons had been born. Whatever the case, Absalom left a lasting memorial to himself by erecting a monument that bore his own name.
When it comes to the life of David, nothing ever seems to be tidy and neat. He has a unique capacity to complicate even the most simple of scenarios. This scene is reminiscent of so many others in David’s life. It is so rife with complications and conflicts that is difficult to keep up with what is going on. The battle between David’s forces and those of Absalom, as significant as it was, is nothing compared to all the mini-conflicts taking place behind the scenes. David had specifically commanded that Absalom be spared. Yet Joab, the commander of his army and the one who had convinced David to allow Absalom to return to Jerusalem in the first place (2 Samuel 14) would disobey those orders.
Easily overlooked in all of this is the fact that more than 20,000 Israelites lost their lives that day. This had been a civil war, an internecine conflict between brothers. David lost a son, but as a result of his failure to deal with Absalom’s original sin against Amnon, David caused many Israelites to lose their fathers, sons, and brothers. There would be 20,000 other graves dug that day. There would be countless mothers, fathers, wives, brothers, and sisters, mourning the loss of a loved one. And all of this can be traced back to David’s sin with Bathsheba. Absalom would be the third son that David lost as a result of his moral indiscretion.
In Psalm 63, written while David was hiding in the wilderness, he penned the following words:
But those plotting to destroy me will come to ruin.
They will go down into the depths of the earth.
They will die by the sword
and become the food of jackals.
But the king will rejoice in God.
All who swear to tell the truth will praise him,
while liars will be silenced. – Psalm 63:9-11 NLT
David believed in the vengeance of God, but it seems he had a hard time seeing it apply to his own son. His command to spare the life of Absalom does not reflect well on his leadership. But it does speak of his regret and recognition that all of this was his own fault. He remained reticent to punish Absalom. But his unwillingness to deal with the rebellion of Absalom would have set a dangerous precedence. He needed to reestablish his authority by demonstrating his willingness to punish all those who had dared to oppose him, including his own son.
But it took Joab’s disobedience to bring Absalom to justice. He did what David had refused to do. Joab was forced to go against the king’s wishes and risk the consequences, but he did the right thing. The rebellion was put to an end and its leader was eliminated. As a result, David’s reign over Israel was restored. But it should not be overlooked that David played no part in any of it. On Joab’s advice, David remained out of the conflict, safe and sound and free from any danger. Perhaps Joab had known that had David gone into battle, he would have spared the life of Absalom. So he recommended that David stay behind and David had readily agreed.
With all the twists and turns of this story, it would be easy to miss the sovereign hand of God in all that takes place. The events recorded in these verses are an expression of His divine will concerning Absalom and David. From God’s perspective, Absalom was a usurper of the throne; he had no right to claim the kingship of Israel. David was still the Lord’s anointed. Every phase of this convoluted story was part of God’s plan to deal with Absalom’s sin against Amnon. David may have been willing to overlook and forget what Absalom had done, but God was not. The rebellion of Absalom should have served as a wake-up call to David, demonstrating the danger of turning a blind eye toward sin. Absalom’s rebellion, while apparently successful, was destined to be short-lived, because it did not have God’s backing. It was simply a means by which God would repay Absalom while teaching David yet another vital lesson in justice.
As the story continues to unfold in the following chapters, we will see David weeping over the loss of Absalom. But we will not see him shed a single tear for the unnecessary loss of life that came as a result of Absalom’s rebellion. There will be no mention of the 10 concubines violated by Absalom on the palace rooftop. David will return to power but he will find himself ruling over a fractured and divided nation. His continual mourning over the loss of his son will send a confusing message to all those who fought on his behalf and helped restore him to power.
Absalom was dead, but the difficulties were far from over. David had his work cut out for him and, once again, it would take Joab to help David do the right thing. God would use this faithful friend to speak truth into David’s life, convicting and convincing him to do what God would have him do.
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